With marriage comes ups and downs. Over the last two weeks, my marriage as experienced both. A little over a week ago my husband lost his job. It was something we had been anticipating, but it doesn’t make the news any easier to digest.
Growing up, my father’s employer was constantly getting bought by larger companies and inevitably the call would come, and inevitably he would get laid off. I am not exaggerating when I say within my lifetime my father has had over 15 job titles. He could write a book about it.
Looking back, I’m sure my parents experienced nights of uncertainty. Uncertainty about money, uncertainty about food, uncertainty about our family’s future. My parents did an unbelievable job at sheltering my brother and I from these uncertainties and for that I am so thankful. Don’t get me wrong- we had tight times, but their goal was for my brother and I to have a childhood as stress-free as possible and that’s exactly what they did.
It is with these lessons in my heart, I know that my husband and I will get over this hurdle. With the Lord’s help, the two of us get can through anything. That’s the beautiful thing about marriage: it’s the two of you against the world. I see these experiences as an opportunity for us to cling to each other in support and love, or times that can drive us apart into resentment and anger. The latter has the power to eat a relationship alive and spit it out, leaving one another unrecognizable; however love is far more powerful and that is the choice we make.
Just as the words our pastors read over us on our wedding day state,
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things
~ 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Now that I’ve covered as much of the “down” as I care to, there are great joys to celebrate! One of them being all the time we get to spend together! Matt used to work Saturdays, and now we have our weekends free to be with each other. A great big, GIGANTIC positive is that Matt also graduated last weekend with his Masters in Management. What a glorious accomplishment to celebrate after such a negative week! Here we are on his graduation weekend:
So, I leave you today on this beautiful Sunday afternoon to go for a nice, long walk with my husband.