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Love Letter…

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A love note to my husband.  When’s the last time you wrote a love letter to your significant other?  Give it a try and see what happens…

Dear Matt,

You wouldn’t believe what I’m doing right now.  Listening to DMB… shocked?  Would it surprise you to know that when we’re separated for whatever reason, I listen to Dave just to feel closer to you?  And you thought I didn’t like them.  My secret is out.

Six weeks ago our marriage was attacked on all sides.  We were not prepared for this battle and it almost ate us alive.  I am now ashamed to say at the time I was not hopeful we would make it.  I was done, out the door.  You said you wanted to fight for us, but I wasn’t sure.  Many nights I spent on my knees, praying for us.

And then, slowly… ssllloooowwlly… things began to change.

We began to talk to each other.  Really talk.  We looked each other in the eyes when we spoke, and we said things we had held onto for years.  We slowly felt more and more connected to each other.   I was literally feeling the shape of my heart change toward you.  I truly believe we are witnessing how beautiful and sacred marriage can be.  We are meant to be together, and He’s not afraid to show Himself in our marriage to tell us that when we need to hear it.

I believe in miracles, and I truly believe our relationship today is a miracle in progress.

I am so excited to move with you to Cincinnati in LESS THAN TWO WEEKS! Wow.  For a while I did not understand why we were being called to move during a time of such turmoil.  I would literally ask out loud “Lord, why NOW?? Why? Why would you move us to a different city during the fight of our lives??!”  I had resolved that I may never have the answer to that question.

Now I can see the beautiful truth beginning to unfold before us.  I believe we are supposed to physically leave this city, this house, this state, and completely start again.  How many times do you get a chance like that?? Not many, but we have been given this opportunity.  Together, we will pack up our memories of this home, hug friends good-bye, and leave the past in the rearview mirror.  Together, we will turn the key into a new chapter of our lives.  We will explore this new city together and create all new memories.  Together.

I love you more today than I ever have, and for that I am so thankful.

Oooh- my favorite song is playing!! Do you remember this one?

I walk half way around the world,
Just to sit down by your side.
And I would do most anything girl,
To be the apple of your eye.

Troubles they may come and go,
But good times they are the gold.
And if this road gets rocky girl,
Just steady as we go.

Any place you wanna go,
Know I’ll be next to you.
If it’s treasure baby you’re looking for,
I’ll search the whole world through.

Know troubles they may come and go,
But good times they’re the gold.
So if the road gets rocky girl,
Just steady as we go.

When the storm comes,
You shelter me.
And I don’t say a word,
And you know exactly what I mean.
In the darkest times,
You shine on me.
You set me free.
And keep me steady as we go.

So if your heart rings dry my love,
I will fill your cup.
And if your load gets heavy girl,
I will lift you up.

Troubles they may come and go,
But good times be the gold.
So if this road gets rocky girl,
Just steady as we go.

  Here’s to falling deeper in love with each other every day!

XOXO

Ups and Downs

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With marriage comes ups and downs.  Over the last two weeks, my marriage as experienced both.  A little over a week ago my husband lost his job.  It was something we had been anticipating, but it doesn’t make the news any easier to digest.

Growing up, my father’s employer was constantly getting bought by larger companies and inevitably the call would come, and inevitably he would get laid off.   I am not exaggerating when I say within my lifetime my father has had over 15  job titles.  He could write a book about it.

Looking back, I’m sure my parents experienced nights of uncertainty.  Uncertainty about money, uncertainty about food, uncertainty about our family’s future.  My parents did an unbelievable job at sheltering my brother and I from these uncertainties and for that I am so thankful.  Don’t get me wrong- we had tight times, but their goal was for my brother and I to have a childhood as stress-free as possible and that’s exactly what they did.

It is with these lessons in my heart, I know that my husband and I will get over this hurdle.  With the Lord’s help, the two of us get can through anything.  That’s the beautiful thing about marriage: it’s the two of you against the world.  I see these experiences as an opportunity for us to cling to each other in support and love, or times that can drive us apart into resentment and anger.  The latter has the power to eat a relationship alive and spit it out, leaving one another unrecognizable; however love is far more powerful and that is the choice we make. 

Just as the words our pastors read over us on our wedding day state,

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things
~ 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Now that I’ve covered as much of the “down” as I care to, there are great joys to celebrate!  One of them being all the time we get to spend together!  Matt used to work Saturdays, and now we have our weekends free to be with each other.    A great big, GIGANTIC positive is that Matt also graduated last weekend with his Masters in Management.  What a glorious accomplishment to celebrate after such a negative week!  Here we are on his graduation weekend:

Doesn’t he just look smart in those threads?

So, I leave you today on this beautiful Sunday afternoon to go for a nice, long walk with my husband. 

GOD BLESS!!